Questions about multiple marriages
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Eleven marriages of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) and the permission of Muslims to have up to four marriages in the Holy Qur’an have been debated in Western circles for a long time and have been the subject of controversy. At the same time, the question arises that when a man is allowed to have four marriages, why is a woman not allowed to have four marriages at the same time? During the recent debate on the Hudood Ordinance, these questions have been raised by various quarters through the media and people are expressing their views on them in their own way.
At a time when family laws were being debated in the West Pakistan Assembly during the time of the late President Muhammad Ayub Khan, a female member of the Assembly had questioned whether a man has the right to have four wives and a woman to have four husbands. Why not right? Hazrat Maulana Ghulam Ghaus Hazarawi was also a member of the Assembly and he had a specific style of answering. Addressing the woman, he said, “Begum Sahiba! You base, there is no obstacle for you. Prohibition is for those who obey the command of the Holy Qur’an, there is no restriction for those who do not. A few days ago, when the same question came up in a national newspaper, Maulana Hazaravi’s answer came to mind, but the manner in which these questions are being raised in the national media and the means to spread doubts about Islamic rules and regulations. In view of this, these questions need to be considered more seriously.
Questions about multiple marriages can be broadly divided into three parts:
Why is the right of Muslims to have more than four marriages given in the Holy Quran?
Why did the Holy Prophet have a total of eleven and nine simultaneous marriages when the Holy Qur’an does not allow more than four marriages at the same time?
If a man is allowed to have four marriages then why is a woman not allowed to have more than one marriage at the same time?
Permission for four marriages for a man
As far as the permission to have four marriages is concerned, it is undoubtedly present in the Qur’an, but in order to understand its true meaning, one needs to understand its background and purpose. That is
“If you are afraid that you will not be able to do justice to the orphans, then marry the women you like, two two three three and four four. And if you are afraid that you will not be able to do justice, then one is enough. ”
According to the narration of Bukhari Sharif, Umm Al-Mumineen Hazrat Ayesha has given the background that in the time of Jahiliyyah many people used to take the orphaned and helpless daughters of their family as their wives because of their beauty or wealth and They did not do justice to them. There was no restriction on the number of marriages, anyone could get as many marriages as he wanted and in this way women especially orphan girls were subjected to oppression and deprivation of rights. Allah Almighty imposed two restrictions on him according to this verse:
One is that if you marry an orphan girl in the family, if you can’t fulfill her rights and provide justice, don’t marry her.
And secondly, it was forbidden to have more than four wives at a time.
Thus, this commandment is basically not a commandment to marry up to four, but a prohibition to have more than four wives, and it is also conditioned in the verse that if the requirements of justice and rights are met. If you can, it is allowed, otherwise be satisfied with only one. Permission to have more than one wife is not difficult to understand in terms of social issues and needs, and it applies to both men and women.
With regard to men, because sometimes a man is not satisfied with a woman because of his particular circumstances, this is the way for him.That he should marry regularly instead of adopting illegitimate forms so that he accepts the responsibility of the woman with whom he has this relationship. The spirit of Islam is that it does not allow any man to have sex with any woman as long as he is responsible for the financial expenses of that woman and the upbringing and expenses of the children born as a result of sexual intercourse. Do not accept regularly. Islam, like the current philosophy and culture of the West, does not leave sexual relations free in such a way that the man fulfills his sexual needs and the woman is left alone to suffer the consequences.
With regard to women, there are times when a situation arises in society where a woman has no choice but to live a solitary life or become the second or third wife of a married man. Make your life meaningful. In this case, Islam has given such a woman a dignified way of life instead of opening the way for many illegitimate ways by blocking the path of lawful marriage, and it is clear that marriage takes place only with the permission and consent of the woman. If the thinking is ready for understanding, then its social needs cannot be ignored.
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More than four wives of the Holy Prophet
With reference to the Holy Prophet, this question is such that when the Holy Qur’an forbade more than four marriages and according to it the Holy Prophet ordered many Companions to abstain from more than four wives. There were wives. He separated the other wives, but the Holy Prophet himself did not divorce more than four of his wives, even though he had nine wives at the time of his demise. The question is why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) himself did not abide by the law which was forbidden to other Muslims and why keep more than four wives in his marriage continuously?
In reply to this, it is said that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not marry more than four wives after the ban imposed by the Holy Qur’aan. However, after the ban on the number of four was imposed, the Holy Prophet did not separate the extra wives but also performed two more marriages and this is the biggest point of objection. To understand the reason for this, we have to keep in mind two other commandments of the Holy Qur’an. There is a rule in verse 3 of Surah Al-Ahzab in which the wives of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) are declared as the mothers of all Muslims and on this basis every one of them is called “Umm Al-Muminin”. And the second commandment is in verse 4 of the same surah in which it is stated that no believer can marry any wife of the Prophet (peace be upon him) after him. It is as if the title of being the mother of the believers is not only an honor for the wives of the purified ones, but it also has some practical aspects. In this case, the confusion was that there was no obstacle in the new marriage for the rest of the women who had divorced more than four wives, but the wives of the purified ones did not marry anywhere else after leaving the house of the Holy Prophet. She could have, so her own dignity, future and security and interest demanded that she should not be fired and she should remain in the marriage of the Holy Prophet.
One more thing to keep in mind here is that the polygamy of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) was not related to sexual passion and desire but to religious and social interests, because the Prophet (PBUH) lived for 3 to 5 years. He lived with Hazrat Khadija Al-Kubra, a widow of Umm Al-Mumineen, who is the real age of sexual desire and passion of any human being. During this time, Hazrat Khadijah remained in his marriage and all the other children except Hazrat Ibrahim were born from her womb, while she was fifteen years older than the Holy Prophet (saw). He got married to Hazrat Ayesha. Therefore, in the background of all the marriages that took place after Hazrat Soodah, there seems to be some religious and social interest. While the expediency of marriage to Hazrat Ayesha can be seen in the context of her great religious and scholarly struggle, it is clear that the domestic life of the Holy Prophet (saw) and the knowledge of the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) are preserved within the four walls. In order to reach the ummah with it, it was necessary for a woman to join the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who was intelligent and resourceful as well as at a stage of life called the age of education and learning, so that she could have full confidence and contentment. At the same time, he should acquire the knowledge of the personal and family life of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) and the instructions and activities within the four walls and convey it to the Ummah. That is why Hazrat Ayesha got married to the Holy Prophet (PBUH) in her childhood which is a natural period of education and after spending nine to eighteen years with the Holy Prophet (PBUH) more or less what Ayesha learned. For half a century, she continued to teach and educate the Ummah. Therefore, this marriage and its occurrence in childhood was for the great intellectual and religious need of the Ummah. In the same way, the religious and social interests of the rest of the marriages of the Holy Prophet can also be accessed.
Against this background, keeping more than four wives of the Holy Prophet in his marriage was in view of religious and social interests and required the respect and interest of these honorable women themselves, so Allah Almighty appointed him as the Holy Prophet. Special permission was granted.
Why four marriages are not allowed for a woman?
The third question is that if a man can have four wives, why can’t a woman have four husbands? Take a serious look at it too If taken, the reason can be understood.
Not only has Islam given great importance to the family and has made it a basic unit of society, but the importance of the family has been recognized in every civilized philosophy of the world. The establishment and stability of the family is based on the preservation of lineage and the preservation of lineage depends on the formation and survival of the family, because unless the lineage is determined and protected, the relationships that make up a family cannot be determined. Is. No matter how many times a man has sex with women, regardless of whether it is permissible or not, if he admits his sexuality, there will be no difficulty in determining the lineage and it will be easier to determine the lineage as well as the related relationships. Goes But if a woman has sex with more than one man, it will be difficult to determine the lineage of the child to be born.
This problem existed even in the age of ignorance when adultery was openly allowed but they had come up with a solution to this problem. According to the narration of Bukhari Sharif, Umm Al-Mumineen Hazrat Ayesha says that in the time of Jahiliyyah, many women used to have sex with many men, but in case of childbirth, she would determine such men and call them. And in the presence of all, I would address one of them and say that this child is yours. No one dared to refuse this decision and he had to accept the responsibility of the child, while more than that. In case of error, a morphologist was called who would determine one of the men nominated by the woman for sexual intercourse on the basis of the genitalia and the man would be responsible as the father of the child. Had to accept
Today, the West is also facing a situation where the number of children born out of wedlock is increasing and it is not possible to determine the fathers of many children, but the West has come up with a solution that is “single parent”. The law makes the determination of father and lineage unnecessary and leaves the mother alone in the responsibility of giving birth to a child. Obviously, it is a clear injustice to a woman that a man should have an equal share with her in sexual intercourse, but the woman should be left alone to suffer the consequences. The biggest reason for the crisis that the West is facing today is the destruction of the family system and the breakdown of relationships. Adultery is the reason why the West has abandoned the heavenly teachings regarding the sexual relations between men and women The door is open and he has no means to stop the consequences.
Therefore, if the family is a basic unit of human society and its protection and survival is essential, then the same rules of marriage and divorce are natural and indispensable for it as the Qur’an and the previous divine teachings support them. They do this because they are based on nature.